Waiting Despite Popular Belief

1 Corinthians, chapter 7, verses 1-7 read:

 
Now concerning the things whereof ye wrote unto me: It is good for a man not to touch a woman.Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband. 
Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband. 
The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife. 
Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency. 
But I speak this by permission, and not of commandment. 
For I would that all men were even as I myself. But every man hath his proper gift of God, one after this manner, and another after that.

There is a lot we can learn about this passage of scripture. I wanted to start off by saying, I know my feelings my not be the popular opinion, but they are what I believe is right. We are all entitled to having our own believes and I feel it is important that we all respect one another and that right.

Verse one talks about a man not touching a woman. Obviously, this doesn’t mean that he should never touch a woman, but it is important that it be the right time and place and person. It should be with your wife, after you are married.

Also, the type of touch we believe it is referring to is sexual intimacy. Giving someone a hug or a kiss is not a bad thing and is important to a lot of people. However, when you are intimate with just your wife, there is something special about that. You are one after you are married and as part of that promise with each other you do things that you don’t do with others, and never have done with others. It makes it more special, and more meaningful.

In verse three it talks about benevolence. The definition of benevolence is the quality of being well meaning or kindness. This means that both husbands and wives should treat one another with kindness, respect, generosity, and compassion. This can be in all aspects of the relationship, mentally, physically, emotionally. We need to be there for one another in all ways possible.

I know that there is a lot of popular belief today that women believe they need to not give into men and be independent, but I argue, that when we both give of ourselves there is something special that can happen. I believe that when a wife gives herself to her husband and the husband gives himself to his wife their bond is strengthened. They are able to build their relationship and together are able to be stronger than they would have been on their own.

We forget the power that we each hold, the power to procreate. The beautiful thing about this power is we need someone else to in order to create life. This power should not be used just for our pleasure with other people besides someone we are married to.

The world today would tell us it is okay to sleep with who we please, and to make sure everyone is exposed to sexual intimacy. I do not believe that this is the way God intended it to be. Sexual intimacy should be saved for marriage and should be something that you can give to your spouse and not experience with anyone besides them.

I believe God meant it to be special and every time you share that with someone else, I feel it is diminished in a way. It isn’t as meaningful and special. I know this is not a popular belief, but waiting is so important and allows for a more meaningful experience and can strengthen your bond with your spouse.